Sunday, August 10, 2014

I have two Black sons.

I have two Black sons. Two black sons that I lay awake all night worrying about. I worry about where to live. I worry about where to send them to school. I worry about what college they will choose. I worry about where they will raise their own family. I worry about when they reach driving age. I worry about when they will be old enough to walk alone to school and to friends houses.

I worry about when they will reach a certain height and the police will really start to perceive them as a serious threat. I contemplate where to "hide" them so they can grow up and live and breathe without being slaughtered by ignorant and fearful white police or be taken under by senseless street violence. I worry about what the impact of knowing they are targets will have on their psyche and self esteem. I worry that when I try to empower them I am actually degrading them.

I worry that someone will try to harm them because the media has deemed them expendable for real and for ratings. I worry that they will actually digest my revolutionary rhetoric and willingly be a target for justice because they are fed up and they are righteous. I worry that they will have to worry like this once they become parents.

I lay awake angry that white people with white children do very little to express solidarity with black families. I am angry that white parents do not say out loud and often and to other white families that the killing of black and brown youth is a direct reflection of the way that society views black and brown people in general and therefore a reflection of themselves. I am angry that white families don't have the guts to address white supremacy. I am angry that young black people have to take to the streets and smash on their own communities in order for white families to notice and that those white families will just use it as an excuse to continue to stereotype them. I am tired of being paralyzed.

Because I have black sons I now understand and empathize with the paralyzing fear that the black community has overcome for centuries in this nation in order to breathe another day, to be happy anyways, to strive despite and the reason why they would have to break down their own homes and establishments to make a point. That's not ignorance. That's desperation. That's selflessness. Even if outsiders or community members don't understand. That's saying that "I will give up my freedom, my life, my home so that others will see that it is that serious" and yet white families will still try to label it as something else. They will still hide from being truthful. They will still blame the victims. They will carry on with their own lives without taking any responsibility for their passive participation in immorality. They will purposefully fail to acknowledge the plight of black and brown youth because they are too scared to be honest with themselves. They will delete me as their Facebook friend. They will talk about me behind my back. They will remain the oppressor. And I will stay awake worrying that eventually one of them harm my child.

Saturday, July 05, 2014

Apologists are enablers: I don't celebrate governments

I don't celebrate governments. I celebrate people. I don't apologize for socio-economic political systems that kill people by saying "nothing is perfect." I apologize for not doing enough to dismantle it more quickly. It's really not an "oh well nothing is perfect" kind of thing for people who have to worry about being shot by law enforcement when they are doing nothing wrong. It's not just a "well nothing is perfect" kind of happening when SCOTUS wants to deny women access to birth control and leave our clinics unprotected. And that's just the shit they are doing here. The thing is, our "nothing is ever perfect" government is killing MILLIONS of people in the name of capitalism. It's not a blessing to be free in a nation that goes out and kills others across the globe. It's a duty to make sure you use any level of freedom you have to dismantle and undermine that system. 

Sunday, February 16, 2014

Do your part white parents.

White parents please tell your white sons and daughters about Jordan Davis, Trayvon Martin, Renisha McBride, Andy Lopez and any and all young or old people of color killed by white people and white police. Yes white parents burden your sons and daughters with these issues and tell them how they can live a life that purposefully seeks to dismantle a racist socio-economic governing system known as white supremacy. Yes white parents enlighten your white children to their unearned privilege early and often. Remind them to be vigilant in regard to refusing to participate in the proliferation of the fatal killing machine of white supremacy disguised as United States capitalism. Black and brown parents have had to burden their children for hundreds of years with the reality that they are considered expendable and are targets in a system designed to eradicate anything other than white or not complying with white supremacy.
White parents stand up and say out loud in public spaces that you do not justify, qualify or agree with white supremacy. Show your children that it is RIGHT to declare your allegiance to people and not to systems and most specifically systems that oppress other humans.

White parents teach your children about the true history of the United States. Bless them with the truth and then teach them how to go out into this world and to smash this fatal white supremacist foundation. 

Do your part white parents. There are no more excuses. This is the world we live in. You are either dismantling white supremacy or you are enabling it.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

White women do not co-sign this video. Please call this video out!

All this video does is promote the same stereotypical racist and sexist notions that black women are angry and need to be shamed into acting right and  that white women are innocent and gentle and need to be protected. This video doesn't do a damn thing for race relations.  And does everything for the promotion of sexist racism.

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

This is a feminist issue. Stay Away from our kids, pigs!

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This is why I have a general disgust for the police. One of the reasons why women were denied the right to vote is that it was believed that they would organize around children's issues.This is a feminist issue. The police are attacking our children and killing them. This is a feminist issue.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Kanye and the Confederacy. Let the white man keep that!

Is Kanye West's appropriation of the confederate flag a legitimate revolutionary move?

I would say that Kanye West is a marketing genius. Based on his past and present behavior and his written word Yeezus wants to be like Jesus. He ultimately wants to be world famous while being seen as a son of God. Or we could just say that he has a god complex. I believe both are accurate.

His business strategy is to take his own values and beliefs regarding world culture and to market them to the public as music, fashion, himself, his family, his brand. So Kanye made the decision to take white supremacy and market it as his shit. He appropriated the term skinhead, he took items from the look (or style of dress) and he took a symbol and said this is mine now. Literally and figuratively.

So should we consider this an attempt at a legitimate revolutionary action? Maybe. Does that mean it was a smart move? Not necessarily.

Kanye West has done two things when deciding to call the confederate flag his now. He has indeed to some extent de-legitimized the power of the symbol. If there is any steam to his campaign it will if not having already done so possibly force the flag to lose some if it's meaning. Whether that is the right thing to do, I don't think so.

What Kanye has also done during this conversation of calling the confederate flag his own is claimed it as a symbol of Black American history and in essence is trying to say this is actually a symbol also of Black culture and that white supremacists cannot have it anymore or to themselves. 

I believe that Kanye may have the best of intentions. He is taking power out of the symbol by confusing its meaning and who it belongs to. We see this happen all the time with many different types of cultural symbols, jargon etc. 

With this move Kanye West asserts his rights over any United States symbolisms, history and culture in general and that is a smart move. However, the very foundation, the very core of the confederate flag meaning is white supremacy. No other ideal. Any other ideal any apologist tries to extrapolate from this symbol is borne from white supremacy, intrinsically linked as a means to an end that sees white supremacy at the bottom line. Not money, not God, not states rights 

So is the appropriation of bigoted imagery or jargon, etc. ever really turn out well for the community who took it? I really don't think so, even when the very audacity to take the term in and of itself may be bold and revolutionary. I say leave the confederate flag with the white community from where it came from. Talk about its symbolism of bigotry and make a national conversation of it so that we can continue to educate the newer generations to its meaning. Don't confuse them. Don't muddy the water about wtf the confederate flag stands for. Keep it crystal clear. The confederate flag was the national flag to a country formed by white people from the USA who did not want to end slavery in the United States. 

The young people, especially and specifically white youth, of the United States should have a full grasp of what the confederate flag is. They should not see it as fashion. They should not see it as some other community's history. It is the white person's history. It is their responsibility. They should know and view it as a symbol of white supremacy, the fatal killing machine that has committed mass genocide across this planet.  It is nothing to play with. It is nothing to desire.  It is hateful and it is rooted in evil. And is a legacy that white youth will need to live with and work hard and diligently to eradicate.

Kanye, let the white man keep that dirty foul shit, because that's what it is. 

Coming from a very loving place.

Friday, May 17, 2013

Why do you even care? A reaction to Chrissy Teigen's slut shaminghypocrisy.

By now many people have heard through celebrity gossip blogs and news sites that model Chrissy Teigen called MTV's Teen Mom, Farrah Abraham, a "whore." You may have also read that in response Chrissy was called out for "slut-shaming."  I went to look up the words slut and whore and I have come to the conclusion that they basically mean the same thing: loose sexual morals (a highly relative idea, definition and label). The only real difference is that a whore gets paid for what a slut does for free. So with that clarified I will move forward with my reaction to Chrissy's slut-shaming antics.

The first thing I am going to say, is actually a question. Why does Chrissy even care about the actions of another woman who has no influence on her, so much so, to the point to take to Twitter to call this woman out her name and tear her down? That's really what I want to know.  Chrissy Teigan's antics are revealing about herself and how she relates to other women and how patriarchy has influenced her thinking, even if it's just the way she treats women she has deemed a "whore."

When Chrissy was called out for her slut-shaming, she got really defensive and dissed more women, dissed feminism and ultimately acted like a hypocritical bully. I call her a hypocrite because Chrissy herself has many commercial images (pictures she has been paid to take) where she is scantily clad in sexually suggestive poses, which according to the definition I spoke of above makes her just as much of a whore as Farrah. I hate that I feel compelled to even say that because I don't intend to slut-shame Chrissy and I do not AT ALL think that Chrissy is bad or deserving of embarassment for her pictures or profession. However, I have to call out the hypocrisy.

I am not offended by so-called loose sexual morals, especially when they do not affect my life. If you want to be promiscuous or whatever, as long as you don't hurt yourself or others, I'm not going to shame you or call you out or even make a noise about your actions. I just want my fellow woman to be healthy and safe with her sexuality.

I am not angry at Chrissy. I am angry that women's sexuality is a commodity used to degrade women, divide women and therefore oppress women. Had Chrissy dissed the social institution of commercialized sexism, where young women are raised up in a culture that will simultaneously promote loose sexual morals and then degrade you for acting out or manifesting that mindset, she would have made a far wider and much more meaningful impact. But what she really was doing was just hating on Farrah Abraham for whatever her reasons may be.

What Chrissy did was buy into and enforce patriarchal and highly oppressive standards of women's sexuality which in turn divided and misguided women into focusing on reacting to each other instead of reacting to commercialized/institutionalized sexism. I can tell by Chrissy's Twitter responses that she has put up a wall and dug in her heels instead of being open to being educated about the idea of what slut-shaming is and how at the end of the day she too is affected by slut-shaming.

The real shame is that instead of using what Chrissy obviously deemed as her moral superiority to privately reach out to Farrah or even publicly so, in an attempt to guide her away from acting like a "whore" (which would have been the wise thing to do or at least a more uplifting thing to do) she made a choice to degrade Farrah using extremely oppressive language and tactics by trying to publicly humiliate Farrah.

People ask me all the time when I state an opinion, "Why do you care?" And so I pose this same question to Chrissy. Why do you care about what Farrah Abraham does to the point that you took to a public social media forum to degrade her? And when you reflect on why you care so much, I hope that you truly care more about women in general and begin a process of educating yourself on the way in which this world, this country, this culture and this celebrity industry that you profit from is used to keep women oppressed and confused.

Coming from a loving place.